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To Do or Not to Do

Published on 12/5/2016
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To Do or Not To Do

Let me share an observation I made yesterday where a grandmother was reprimanding her young grandchild. Being a parent myself I can certainly identify with parents and grandparents who must train up their children.


I know it is not an easy task but there are some methods that work better than others. I also know all methods will not render the same results. There are too many variables.


The question that came to mind as I watch this grandmother interact with her grandchild was this: how often does she tell the child "what to do" as opposed to "what not to do".


As a child growing up I remember hearing "don't you know better?"

Well, frankly no. No one had told me better. It was frustrating being held responsible for something that I could not do because no one had told me "the better".


Too often the pressures parents feel as they strive to provide for their families keep them from taking the time to lay the ground work neccesary to  train their children the way they would like.


If I may offer another view on how to meet this situation with our children it would be this:


Consider the effort and time it takes to correct a bad situation compared to the time it takes to STOP, THINK CLEARLY and SHOW our children what good behaviour looks like, approaching the subject from their point of view. Sometimes we neglect to realize their world looks quite different from ours.

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