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Attitude is Everything
Are you a negative thinking person or a positive thinking person?
No matter what comes your way, do you handle it with the utmost patience and confidence knowing that everything will be okay in the end?
DTS stands for Distorted Thinking Styles and is a customary way of thinking that eventually will cause a misperception of a situation or event. Constant frustration can lead to Distorted Thinking Styles and will eventually affect our attitudes. Distorted Thinking Styles could account for 90% of the times you experience frustration.
Five Types of Distorted Thinking Styles:
Magnifying: Magnifying turns the consequences of an event into a catastrophe such as, "I'm going to be fired." You will constantly think of something bad happening. Keeping you in a state of panic wondering just when that next shoe is going to fall.
Destructive Labeling: This is an extreme form of over-generalization, making someone or a particular situation totally negative.
Imperative Thinking: Think of this as a list of inflexible rules about how you and others should act, usually based on negative past experiences.
Mind Reading: This attributes to motives that explain other people's actions toward a person or event.
Divide and Conquer: This happens because of over-magnification and wanting others to support a particular position. People who have DTS's have a tendency to garner support, usually creating a division within ranks or groups.
Some people have been thinking negatively for so long that they cannot see any other way. They may have intentionally put up a “negative barrier” as to protect themselves from people who may say or do things that would hurt them.
The majority of people, who experience major cases of Depression, Frustration, and Hate towards oneself, etc., may need years of therapy to help them understand and overcome their way of thinking. Getting you to a better way of thinking will probably take longer than you would like.
Challenged Attitude Examples:
- It's not my job.
- But I have a college degree.
- The other department should have taken care of it.
- I have new responsibilities now so I can't do it.
- It won't work.
- It can't be done.
- They won't like it.
- You didn't consult with us first.
- My pay scale is less than the national average.
- Those other employees make a huge amount of money.
- Because I don't make more, I'm going to punish my team by only giving 50%.
- I just want to draw a check until something better comes along.
- My responsibilities keep changing.
- My perception is different than the companies.
- They make more money than I do.
- I am considered a bottom feeder.
- I did the research ¬ I should make more money.
- Nothing stays the same.
- I have no incentives.
- I have no growth possibilities.
- I want higher pay.
- I can't advance because of a political environment.
- I don't get any respect.
- I hope to get fired so I can collect unemployment.
As you can see, there are quite a few negative thoughts out there in this world, and there are no promises that anything will get any better for you or any of the issues that you may be having.
Ask yourself these questions? Are you one of those people with a challenged attitude? Do you try a put up an imaginary wall around yourself so as to protect yourself from any further remarks that may keep you feeling down about everything in life?
If so, then I challenge you to implement the 7 Steps to Overcoming Challenged Attitudes.
WORK on your personal foundation:
(F.R.E.S.H. Five Pillars of Attraction)
Right now, write down one task for each of the Five Pillars (F.R.E.S.H.) that you can make an immediate improvement in.
1. STOP listening to that little negative voice. Counter-punch the negative self talk with a substantial dose of positiveness.
2. LOOK for alternative explanations. In many cases there could be hundreds of them, unfortunately when you are frustrated you are unable to see the forest for the trees - sometimes referred to as Frustration Tunnel Vision.
3. MOODS are contagious, both positive and negative. Do something that will place you in a positive mood, such as a daily delicious habit or speaking with anyone that is known for having a positive attitude or mood.
4. CONTROL your frustration. Speak slowly, breathe deeply into your heart, and choose to remain calm or excuse yourself from the discussion take a time out. Stop drinking caffeine.
5. STOP looking out the rear view mirror when that big broad windshield is staring you in the face. Your vision of each event or situation is totally up to you. You can either choose to be negative or positive, your choice. Or, you can either focus on your negative past or look forward into a positive future.
Remember this quote: "Past failures don't equal current successes."
6. WATCH with great care who you hang out with. A quote by Jim Rohn says "YOU become the average sum of the five people with whom you associate with."
In regards to this powerful philosophy, ask yourself these questions:
- What are they doing to me?
- What have they got me saying?
- Where do they have me going?
- What do they have me thinking?
- What do they have me becoming?
- Then ask yourself the big question:
Is that okay?
Whether you are a corporation or an individual, dealing with attitude challenges by implementing this 7 Step Program indicates you are making the first leap from making negative choices to making choices that will certainly have a positive impact on yourself, co-workers and family member.
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