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How Is Your Listening Skill - Do You Think You Are a Good Listener?

Published on 5/15/2018
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How is Your Listening Skill – 

Listening is an art to be developed. When you learn to listen, you don’t just listen with your ear. You listen with your eyes by observing the mannerism, the body language of the person speaking to you. This in itself tells a whole other story. A look speaks volumes.

It is quite fascinating to watch people when they speak. You get the following impressions like:

  1. They don’t believe what they are saying and may simply be repeating something that sounds good or trying to appease you.
  2. Watch the movement of their eyes, their hands. A good habit to develop is to look directly at a person when having a conversation. It tells you a lot!
  3. Watch their body language. They may be telling you they are not comfortable with what you are saying.
  4. Listening on the phone, by the different nuances in their voice you can tell if they are angry, distrustful, reluctant to speak, smiling, or want to listen to what you have to say.

You may be saying why don’t they just say it? Some people are rude or simply direct and will tell you…"look! I am not interested." and put the phone down. That! I believe happens to telemarketers a lot.  Others may have their own issues going on and would rather not speak but are being polite.


If you are really listening, you will hear this in their voice and can end the conversation by rescheduling your call. You can also choose to dig a little deeper in a sensitive way of showing that you care and wanting to help, using the right words. Of course, what you are hearing from paying close attention will make you sense if that is the route to go. Your party may well respond to what they are hearing from you.  You may well convey something in your tone that allows them to open up and then you will discover that the person just needed to talk.

I also am a firm believer that if you listen to your body it speaks to you and you can take appropriate action.

Here is a test you can use to summarize your listening skills.

The following excerpt is from an article published by Deb Peterson January 29 2018

Are you a good listener? Let's find out.

On a scale of 25-100 (100 = highest), how do you rate yourself as a listener? _____

Let’s find out how accurate your perception is. Rate yourself in the following situations and total your score.

4 = Usually, 3 = Frequently, 2 = Sometimes, 1 = Seldom

____ I try to listen carefully even when I’m not interested in the topic.

____ I’m open to viewpoints that are different from my own.

____ I make eye contact with the speaker when I’m listening.

____ I try to avoid being defensive when a speaker is venting negative emotions.

____ I try to recognize the emotion under the speaker’s words.

____ I anticipate how the other person will react when I speak.

____ I take notes when it’s necessary to remember what I’ve heard.

____ I listen without judgment or criticism.

____ I stay focused even when I hear things I don’t agree with or don’t want to hear.

____ I don’t allow distractions when I’m intent on listening.

____ I don’t avoid difficult situations.

____ I can ignore a speaker’s mannerisms and appearance.

____ I avoid leaping to conclusions when listening.

____ I learn something, however small, from every person I meet.

____ I try not to form my next response while listening.

____ I listen for main ideas, not just details.

____ I know my own hot buttons.

____ I think about what I’m trying to communicate when I speak.

____ I try to communicate at the best possible time for success.

____ I don’t assume a certain level of understanding in my listeners when speaking.

____ I usually get my message across when I communicate.

____ I consider which form of communication is best: email, phone, in-person, etc.

____ I tend to listen for more than just what I want to hear.

____ I can resist daydreaming when I’m not interested in a speaker.

____ I can easily paraphrase in my own words what I’ve just heard.

____ Total


75-100 = You’re an excellent listener and communicator. Keep it up.
50-74 = You’re trying to be a good listener, but it’s time to brush up.
25-49 = Listening isn’t one of your strong points. Start paying attention.

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So How is your listening skill – Do you think you are a good listener? Something to think about honing your listening skill.


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