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Parenting - Its Challenges and Rewards

Published on 5/1/2015
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A Press Release I read written by an Affiliate about his son lead me to write my PR, and I am a firm believer that when you recognize certain interests or traits in your kids at  an early age you should give them the exposure.

What do I mean by that? You will see as you continue reading.


I also have a son who is now quite grown but was a bit of a challenge as a kid.

Challenge in the sense that you had to keep one step ahead to keep him from being bored, and challenged by his curiosity - his hunger for just knowing because his famous question was always "but why".

Kids tend to test you, especially those with very strong personalities - not unusual or surprising as both his parents are imbued with strong personalities.

One of the first things I noticed when he first started walking was that he was always trying to run. As he grew stronger we would say to him walk don't run and he would take two steps away from you and as if he couldn't help himself he would begin to run.

There are some things he was noted for but these stood out:

1.  Always running
2.  Telling himself stories and writing poems
3.  Showed an interest in animals, insects and birds
4.  A natural at playing the piano

In the first case - because he was always running I thought he would be a great athlete.

We figured we had to get him active in doing something as he would lock himself in his room on  Saturdays and you could hear him talking as he walked around.  We decided that this could not continue so I checked with the  Squash Club to get him enrolled and was told the youngest age for admittance was 10 years. He wasn't quite 9 yet.  Having friends in the club helped so I got him enrolled. Of course he had no interest but I decided he was not going to be home not doing anything so I took him to the club every Saturday morning where he was trained.

The club had a Canadian coach who was amazed at his strength and complimented him and us about his backhand.  He traveled to Canada on his first trip to an under 13 tournament, and traveled with the team to other countries thereafter.


Briefly, he won the under 19 squash championship for the Caribbean in two consecutive years and was at the time the second person in the country to do so.


In the second instance  - he had a thing with his dad. They told each other stories and I chose not to get involved. My thing was that I read stories not tell stories.  So from a tender age he would call his dad at his office and bargain saying things like:  "Dad you tell me two stories and I will tell you one."

I discovered much later that he had a notebook filled with poems two of which got published in his high school magazine.


In the Third Instance - Our discovery that he liked animals lead us to give him his first encyclopaedia about animals and insects at age 6 by which time he was reading fluently and the adult books around had to be hidden from him.

For a long time I really thought that based on his interest and avid reading habits that he was going to be a Marine Biologist or a Veterinarian. Were we in a position to give him that exposure...who knows.

When friends would ask what should they give him as a gift I promptly told them a book.

Each time I sat to read a book he would present me with one saying Mommy please read. Which means that my reading took place when he fell asleep. So I started teaching him to read before he was 4 years old using the Flash Card method.


Children are really fascinating human beings.  He had a particular book he liked being read to him and during the reading he would sit closely,  quietly watching every page I turned.  Then one day  a friend came by and stood behind him while he was reading aloud. He was 4 years old at the time and she exclaimed: "My God this child can read"  I smiled as I realized what was happening. My son had memorized the book verbatim and was able to turn the pages at the right moment.

In the fourth instance - Parenting by example.  His dad had an old piano he grew up with and would play from time to time. My son started to do the same thing creating his own music, so we thought that we should have him trained. His music teacher was so fascinated with him that she allowed discipline a free reign because as she stated what he grasped in 6 months is what she had students still doing in 2 years.

When she decided on a particular lesson some evenings, he would decide that he did not want to do that and she would allow him to do what he wanted.  Honestly I am still today not sure how to view that.  I ask myself had she insisted on the lesson of the day would it stifle his creativity?

Took him to Jamaica when he was 6 years old and he discovered an electronic organ in the house we were staying.  The music we heard coming from the room caused the adults around to check to see who was playing and surprise surprise it was my son.

Sadly though He lost interest in music lessons in less than a year. I guess the challenge just was not there.

As parents we accept the challenges, are here just to provide guidance allowing our children to develop - and give exposure where we deem it necessary.

Thank you for reading my story which has shown some value in parenting, its challenges and rewards. I realize that I have so much more and so do you.





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