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Fitting In

Published on 12/18/2018
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Fitting In

Fitting in...
Growing up, I think I missed a few conversations about how to function in this world or I just wasn’t listening. I wanted so badly to be one of the cool kids. To have the cool friends. To be liked. To feel like I belonged somewhere. To feel accepted. Really, I just wanted to “fit in”. I tried so awkwardly hard to be someone, anyone, that those other judgmental kids in school and people anywhere would like.

Let me tell you where “fitting in” got me.

As a kid, I didn’t have those cool friends and I thought the friends I had weren’t the cool ones. I was wrong. I longed to change my stars so bad that I took for granted what I had. I sold myself short to be the kid that wasn’t being made fun of. And I was still made fun of. Im not talking about bullies. Im talking about what I did to myself. I was denying my chance to learn about myself at a young age. I was learning to be insecure. Learning to listen to the judgements. And believing them. I was learning that the expectations of others were more important than my own. I was learning to sell myself out. I was learning to internalize the hurt and pain and save it for later. Learning to sell my beliefs for the cheap flee market “fitting in” label. You know, all the junk they really teach in schools.

Fast forward to a young adult that still wears that “Hello My Name Is ...” sticker.


Or so I thought.

I still didn’t know me. I knew who you wanted me to be. And I hated it. This wasn’t me at all. And now I’m fighting myself, my relationships, and everyone. Coping by not communicating isn’t coping at all.Thought I learned to keep my mouth shut long ago. To go with the flow. Drink another beer. Take another hit. Over eat. Sit on my lonely couch. Hate on myself some more while stuffing down my original thoughts and feelings. All just to fit in. Or make a relationship work. That is the kind of young adult that makes mighty mistakes. And I made them. So my desire to fit in, did anything but that. I was unhealthy. And my coping mechanisms only fueled the chaos. That was a dangerous time. You know any one that has been here?

I battled all of this for a long time. Fitting in. And I’ve been learning to correct what I taught myself so long ago in order to do that. I realized almost 10 years ago that I still don’t fit in. And thankfully so. I’m proud to be a piece in the puzzle that most still can’t find a spot for. You should be too. I’m not striving to be perfect. In fact, I’m striving to enjoy making mistakes to find the greener pastures.

The world will adjust.

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If I could go back and tell my younger self one thing:

fitting in isn’t as paramount as you make it out to be, so don’t follow them into what seems like the party.

To a future me and to kids of all ages...

Pursue originality.
Long to find the challenges.
Set out to face your personal struggles.
Accept who you are right now.
No matter what age.
Find what stirs your soul.
Listen to yourself.
Learn to love the change.
Laugh when you find yourself.
Share the joy of discovery.
Water on oil the people who judge you.
This is my life.
This is your life.
If we aren’t encouraging each other to live, and live as ourselves, then what are we doing, because living as ourselves is all we really have, before we start dying.

Fitting In

Share with me what your thoughts on this are. What are you willing to do, TODAY< to step up and stand in your greatness? 

To Your Abundance and Prosperity!

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